Are You A Certified Asshole? You were a nice person until you started working with the current bunch of creeps. You see your co-workers as competitors. You secretly enjoy watching other people suffer and squirm. You are often jealous of your colleagues, and find it difficult to be genuinely pleased for them when they do well.
You Did Nothing Wrong, He’s Just An Asshole
You're not wrong, you're just an asshole - Imgur
E ighty years ago, researchers began one of the longest and most complicated projects to understand human behavior in history. It would take almost 50 years to complete. But their work would define an entire field of psychology. It was the idea of personality.
Just Another Asshole
If I asked you to identify the biggest asshole in your life right now, how quickly would you be able to come up with a name? Some of us might be able to list three or four assholes with whom we interact on a daily basis, plus all of the anonymous assholes who cut us off in traffic, cut in front of us in line, and otherwise make our lives miserable. Want to know how to identify the assholes in your life? Start with your own emotional responses. The problem is that sometimes our feelings can play tricks on us, and the meta-emotions surrounding issues of workplace and family hierarchy mean that we might be too quick to ascribe assholery to what might otherwise be called assertiveness or boundary-setting.
Did I do something wrong? Did I say something too intense, too deep? Was I too clingy? What did I do that made him stop talking to me out of the blue? Honey, listen up.