Oh, great. The fundamentalists are going to have a field day with this one. Gay men who bump uglies with 20 or more partners during their lifetimes are more likely to develop prostate cancer. And their risk of getting a non-aggressive cancer was five times more likely. So there you have it, fellas. You better be careful or cancer might get you!
To begin, put a generous amount of water-based lube on one or two fingertips make sure you replenish the lube often and gently massage the area around the outer rim. Once he's riled up, test the waters by gently sliding just the tip of your middle finger inside. If he clenches his sphincter muscles, which encircle the anal opening, pull your finger out and continue rubbing the outer area to help reduce his tension.
Anal sex has become conflated with the male gay or bisexual experience — so much so that the top-vs-bottom question is often the first talking point in Grindr chats. And so much so that people think you have to be into anal to be a gay or bi man just as they think you have to be a gay or bi man to be into anal. In fact, in a study of men who have sex with men — a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in — less than 40 percent of respondents had engaged in anal intercourse during their last sexual event. To limit oneself to just a single flavor is to shut out a smorgasbord of new experiences.